math

Hi, just woke up realizing i need a entry na....

When everything has been said and done, you think there could be a possibility for another chances? I admit, im not perfect, i do mistakes..(alot).  Im hoping that someday, one day, i will be forgiven. I'm missin' the old days...overnight, cuttings, our photos, the manila bay saga, and ofcourse, THEM. Althrough these years, i'm still wishing that everything will fall into proper places. I know were grown ups, pero ganun pala talaga yon, may masasaktan ka sa ayaw mo at sa hindi.  It's been several years at hindi ko alam na aabot pa ng ganito katagal. If there's one thing in my life na gusto kung bumalik, aside kay papa ofcourse, sila yon. Everytime i missed them, tinitignan ko nalang yung mga pictures nila, yung comments na minsan ako pa ang topic, and yung mga event na pinupuntahan nila, and sadly, i'm not there anymore. At times, gusto ko na silang burahin sa FB list ko, but most of the times ayoko, i enjoyed viewing their photos, yun nalang kase ang meron ako.  I can't blame them, pero sana time will come that i can be forgiven. Na sana they could still remember the small things ive done for them, our small conversation, yun lang ayus na ako dun. I'm just starring them from a far. I just want them to know that i miss them and i'm just here :(

I just also want to thank them, for allowing me to enter in their lives kahit sandali, for allowing me to sit dun sa may tayuman, nang matawag kang sis, nang makasama sila sa napaka daming overnight, makasama at gawing antayan ang Balls at Jollibee Morayta. Salamat.

I was hoping and waiting way back for their revenge, but they just kept on silent, not knowing na mas masakit pala yung ganon, yung wala silang sinasabi....I learned my lesson already, yun nga lang through its hard ways. I was hurt...and still hurting. Pero life is so short, kaya i will just be thankful for those memories with them. I'm still keeping our 1000 photos, including the manila bay shoots. Those memories our priceless. Thank you guys.

I miss them...

5'7

 Happy 5 years and 7 months kit... I love you so much...

we almost forgot

Promise to papa...

Promise ko kay papa na i will understand each and every tantrums of mama. I will be a good example sa mga siblings ko. 

I promise that i will do my best sa work, so that someday pag nagkita na kami, He'll be proud of what i achieved.

I promise to be a good partner kay Kit, kahit madalas imbyerna ako sa kanya specially kapag nagka-katampuhan kami. I want everything turns to be right.- THIS TIME.

I promise to be a good friend kahit di naman lahat kayang i appreciate   yun.

I promise to be a mature one.

Relationships issue

The best relationship is when you two can act like lovers and best friends. It’s when you have more playful moments than serious moments. It’s when you can joke around, let each other have piggy backs, have unexpected hugs and random kisses. It’s when you two give each other that specific stare and just smile. It’s when you’ll rather stay in to watch movies, eat junk food and cuddle, than go out all the time. It’s when you’ll stay up all night just to settle your arguments and problems. It’s when you can completely act yourself and they can still love you for who you are. 

It's for you... 

Fine!!!!

When the world seems to know that everything is fine with us, truth is, it’s the other way around.

Nasanay na siguro ako na isulat sa blog ko lahat ng nararamdaman ko. Truth is, mas madalas ko pang hawakan ang mouse ng computer kesa sa kamay mo at marinig ang speaker ng computer kesa sa boses mo. I'm trying to be the best for you (for us), kaya lang you just chose to close your eyes kaya di mo makita. I never hear you saying sorry kapag umiiyak ako, i never feel you comforting me, kapag malungkot ako, and worst is ikaw ang dahilan ng lahat ng yon. I'm totally paid off whatever i've caused you before. You never asked me to choose you, but i still choose you kase alam ko you never wish any harm for me, you will take care of me, na your worth it, kala ko lang pala yon. You never understand kung bakit ako nagkakaganito.

Wala naman akong hinangad na di maganda para sa atin, from the start, I always wanted to be the best partner to you, to serve you, to take care of you, moreover, to love you, but despite of all this, wala. Tingin mo sakin  simpleng partner lang na kakausapin pag may libreng oras. Nakakapagod din palang intayin ka umuwi matapos mong mag goodtimes at nakakapagod din palang antayin ka matapos mag laro sa mga pinag kakaabalahan mong online games. I always set time for us para magkaron naman tayo ng oras para sating dalawa pero you never recognized each efforts i made. This is not what i dream for, never. I envy some friends ive known kapag nag kwekwento sila how they partner's look at them like a princess, na diko man lang ata na experience since then, dahil sa sobra na nating komportable sa isa't isa, minsan wala ng respect.

I won't regret this day saying these lines to you. Kase kahit papano, kahit di ko man pinangarap, nakagaan sa loob ko, nakabawasan sa nararamdaman ko. To you, i'm nothing. At kahit pagsilbihan kita ng habang buhay, wala lang sayo yun.  People thought were ok, iniisip nila na everything is flowing smoothly between us, truth is hindi. Ako na lang ata ang nag pupush sa relasyon nato. Hindi naman siguro kawalan sayo kung pasayahin mo naman ako kahit mnsan, pakita mo naman na i'm worth it, mag ka time ka naman! Ngayun naiintindihan kona kung bakit dalawa ang kamay ko. One is for wiping my tears, and the other one is for tapping my shoulder saying everything will be fine. Hey, i still have a damn life, napapabayaan ko na siguro sarili ko.

And if this is the game that you want, FINE, i'll make a big rebound! I can't even remember when was the last time you ask me hows everything, i guess not even once. I don't deserved this. NEVER, but the truth is nasasaktan mo na ako, its hard to admit that i'm getting use to it.

Alam ko darating ang araw na magiging okey tau ulit. na parang walang nagyare. But i won't erase this blog, this would remind me of how brave i'm saying unwanted words to you during downtime of us.I'm not aiming for everything, just let me feel i'm important, secured and safe....

Relationship ♥

Learn to let go of the past, and recognize that every day won’t be sunny. And when you find yourself lost in the darkness and despair, remember it’s only in the black of night that you see the stars, and those stars will lead you back home. So don’t be afraid to make mistakes, to stumble and fall, because most of the time, the greatest rewards come from doing the things that scare you the most. Maybe you’ll get everything you wish for. Maybe you’ll get more than you ever could have imagined. Who knows where life will take you. The road is long and in the end, the journey is the destination.

Relationship ♥

The best relationship is when you two can act like lovers and best friends. It’s when you have more playful moments than serious moments. It’s when you can joke around, let each other have piggy backs, have unexpected hugs and random kisses. It’s when you two give each other that specific stare and just smile. It’s when you’ll rather stay in to watch movies, eat junk food and cuddle, than go out all the time. It’s when you’ll stay up all night just to settle your arguments and problems. It’s when you can completely act yourself and they can still love you for who you are.

It's been a year....

MARCH 8 :)

This is my way of saying....Cheers to them:). People who simply touched our lives will always be remembered and will definitely leaves footprints in our hearts. I may not be able to be say thank you to them personally, truly I'm honored having them even for awhile. It's been a year since i started a new life here, new friends, new work, and probably to continue with what i left behind. God has always been good for allowing me to meet someone like them and i will always be forever thankful for that. Yes, i made mistake, once, twice, thrice..., but i think i already paid for it and I'm hoping for the forgiveness soon. It may not be now, but i know it will come, when the right time comes. God and i knows they've been good to me for helping me throughout. I'm praying for their happiness and success in life. It's been a year when i started to face the reality alone, i admit, I'm a bit scared but i don't have any options but to gave my best foot forward.To try everything and give my best shot. It was never been easy for me as expected. Until i came to the point that all i can do is pray not only hard, but harder. It's been a year since a lot of things happened. I'm living my life to the fullest but without regrets. I know I'm better now compare before. I value things the way it supposed to be value. I feel sad for learning it through its hard ways. I will never forget that.To them, i will just stare them from a far,i know they are all doing good without my presence. God knows i missed them. I will pray for them and wish all the best. And now, after learning a good lessons, i don't have anymore time to waste any single opportunity to live the life the way it should be without wasting time, leaving with hatreds and loosing the a good chance to grow. No. Not now. Never. I'm not afraid to say and believe that I'm still a working in progress..

Just because someone loves you, doesn’t mean they won’t hurt you.

Maybe I'm just pissed off with what's happening. Things are happening not the way i wanted. I just want them to know that hey! I'M HERE!!! visible, have feelings and most of the time taken for granted. Maybe I'm just paranoid to think that nobody understand me or maybe I'm just dwelling or expecting too much in return for all the good things i've done. I bet its not bad to ask for something they should give in return, its like hey, i'm not asking too much? i'm not asking for your 360 degrees attention and all, atleast have time to say something for me to understand, spare some of your precious time, or just do you part. I don't want this routine anymore, i'm afraid we'll be used to it. I'm starting to feel envy for others who are not experiencing it. I ENVY THEM!!!! I guess it's not to late for some adjustment. It's not to late too patch things up. But is shouldn't come not only to you or me alone, IT should be US!

Simple things that would make me relieve and understand. That's all im askin for,and i guess it's not too much :(

Love is simple, it just seems complicated!

Simplicity is the main component in love. Although we may not see it, it is there. Love is simple, what makes it complicated is life. Life is a integrated web of emotions cause by events and people. Sure love is an emotion but it is not cause, it just happens. But for the rest of the emotions are cause because nobody gets angry, sad or happy for no reason, well naturally at least. So it is simple to love someone. It may seem complicated because the rest of you emotion mixes the pot. But with the other emotions it makes love so much better. It makes the pain worth it, because the love is just what you want. Just what you need.

"No one can put a good woman down"

WEDDING PREPS...

We've just created this post so that atleast we could have some ideas, brainstormings, drafts and could me a souvenir for our wedding :)

 BEFORE OUR I DO's

MEET THE GROOM TO BE

Hi! I'm Kit, the excited groom to be, Last 30 years of my life was really a roller coaster one, and one things for sure, now, as these days go onwards, I will still buy tickets, to ride in a roller coaster life and love....with her :)

MEET THE BRIDE TO BE 

Hi! I'm Meane, the lovely bride to be. Last 28 years of my life has been meaningful to me. And now, as I enter the next chapter of my life I never thought that there could be much meaningful than this defining life, as i marry my partner, my lover and my bestfriend.

Getting Started with our drafts :)

We will start from here, we won't be needing coordinators, instead we will just grabbed each pieces of advice, idea, and tips from our friend. From there, we will just have to consolidate all those brillant ideas to form a beautiful wedding layouts.

Thanks Ms. Alona for the brochures, a big help for us!

Sample wedding invitation

         

Bride's maid gown

   

The Church
Just a bit background, Im a true blooded Magnificat. I can still remember when we used to practice singing songs every weekends to perform every Sunday. This is also my home far away from my home.
 

Some rules for effective communication

One of the most important skills a married couple can possess is the ability to communicate effectively. The word communicate comes from the Latin communicare, meaning, "to make one." Communication is NOT just speaking the process of making our thoughts and feelings clear! It is doing so in a way that brings another into our inner world gently. It is finding the deeper connection beneath all our divisions. It is discovering that where we are most ourselves, we are not ONLY ourselves.

Words are not necessarily communication - words spoken in anger, for example, drive people apart, and so are antithetical to communication. When we fail to listen as well as speak, we again fail to communicate. The process of communication is involves not only our own thoughts and feelings, it also requires sensitivity to the other. Wisdom, as Solomon knew, did not involve having the right answers - to be wise is to have a listening heart.

And so, a few guidelines for effective communication - for married couples, and anyone else who wants to genuinely communicate:

1. Listen with trust - Have faith in the other, and in your own inner wisdom. Trust that each of you has the answers to your questions and problems within

2. Listen with love - Listen to the other from within his or her experience; listen to what he or she is saying and, more important, feeling. Then affirm with or without words that you are listening and trying to understand.

3. Listen with patience - Communication is not all about words, sometimes it's about silence. Try to become comfortable with the still points in a conversation; those intervals of silence that sometimes occur in important conversations. Don't interrupt or rush to share your own experience until you have fully heard the other's experience.

4. Speak from "I" - When you respond, do so from your own experience, feelings, and opinions. Don't intellectualize and criticize what the other says, respond from your own point of reference and experience.

5. Accentuate the positive - Try to find common ground, and affirm the other as much as possible.

Remember, the truth is not an absolute value - love is. The truth without love can be devastating, The great virtue of communication is learning to speak the truth with love. 

 

Wedding

We attended the wedding of our friend Bute and Bebang last December 8, 2010. It's a once in a lifetime experiences witnessing how two lovely couple binded as one with love. We heard them exchanging their vows and saying their lifetime commitment to each other. We, as friends are there to support the said ceremony. We wish them both happiness and success on their marriage life.

YES! they've been through a lot, I'm not actually close to any of them but hearing it to my partner how these two lovely person showed their love to each other help me a lot forming this blog. We occasionally see each other but i can feel how they are so perfect for each other.

Problems occur but i think whats important is they handled it very well and i admired them for that. The said ceremony was indeed perfect. Seeing the bride in her bridal car and watching the groom whose very tense every now and then.T'was really an awesome party. You can notice how extravagant that party was from the Hotel-Church-Reception. Again, these two lovely individuals deserves a wishes of fruitful love and respect. Thanks for the invites and i must say We had a wonderful day :) Two thumbs UP.

"to have an d to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part."

 

My realization :-)

Getting married is not about looking like a white-clad princess surrounded by  lovely flowers in a fairytale setting. It is all about a union of two hearts and making an everlasting promise.Your wedding vows will emphasize this strongly and it's up to you how to approach this.Wedding Vows can be traditional, old-fashioned, original, unique, religious, funny, poetic, romantic, or with the flavor of the country of your ethnic background.No matter what kind, though, wedding vows should flow from your heart.

Broken ♥ted

this is from my own point of view :)

This is for the broken hearted. I know how you feel. Empty, betrayed, and no happiness whatsoever. You don’t want to laugh, because you know it’s not going to help, but you don’t want to cry, because it will just make you feel worse. You feel like your heart is falling apart, but not only that, but you know soon your life is going to feel like it’s falling apart too. You don’t think it will ever end, and no matter what this person has done to you, it feels impossible to stop loving them. And everyone wonders why if they have hurt you so much, then why do you still love them. That’s the confusing part, you don’t know why, you just do, and the people who hurt you the most, and normally the ones you love the most. And then, after a few weeks, you finally feel a sense of relief, like you’re getting happy again, but you know inside that you’re just going into denial. And after a few more weeks, you’re back to where you were an empty soul and teary eyes. You thought you got over them, but really, you just stopped showing it.

And you can’t help but to show it again. It leaves deep scars on your heart that are there forever. And no one understands how you feel, and how deep you are hurt, no matter who they are, because it hasn’t happened to them And even if it has, every broken heart is different. They don’t know the true pain you feel and carry each and everyday now, so you learn that basically you are alone with all this. And the feeling starts to overwhelm you, and suddenly you just break down, right there, because you know you’ve had enough, the tears just instantly start flowing, and you’re to the point where you don’t care who see’s. Because you’ve spent so many nights lying awake in bed, and so many days being haunted by the scars and fear of rejection. And in the midst of all these tears, you know that its not helping any, and it’s not going to bring them back, if you ever even had them in the first place. 

After about a million tears have been cried, you finally pull yourself back together and keep going. Your throat starts to clench and your eyes burn with the tears you are trying to hold back. Everyone says, “It will be okay…” But you know it won’t. And that’s the truth, it won’t. And you look back on all of the hurt you had from this, and you realize that people are horrible. You’re still hurt, but you’ve learned to hide it so that everyone thinks you are okay. So now every time you see this person, you know you still love them, and you feel a slight tingle in your heart yearning for them to love you, screaming out, but for some reason they don’t hear it. And then you sit back and wonder how one person could have caused all of this…

Aftermath

Finally :) Issues has been settled (hope so)...

Wala namang problemang di naaayos sa magandang usapan. If both parties are willing to admit their own mistakes and  learn to accept forgiveness, 100 percent guarantee na maayus lahat ng issue. Ang isang taong galit, for sure yan she or he might say foul words or even below the belt nadin. Siguro that's one way how we can release the pain and yung galit at the same time. Nakakasakit tayo ng ibang tao not because gusto natin but no one is perfect.

Ako, honestly masaya ako sa nangyare, atleast ngayun wala ng okward moments sa floor at sana ganoon din sila. Wala naman siguro talagang tao na gusto ng may kaaway sya diba? It's a different feeling kapag maaliwalas sa floor, yung alam mong kampanti ka sa taong katrabaho mo.

A rumor can affect a person's life and damage 1's reputation; so be mindful about what you say about someone.

But at the end of the day, nasabi na ang lahat ng dapat at hindi sabihin. nakasakit ka man ng taong mahal mo. Nangyare nayun. Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending. 

Im hoping na sana tuloy tuloy na...TIME and SPACE...lang guro kung kailangn. Time can heal all wounds and space para maka pag reflect. :)

NIÑA

My sister is no longer a baby!!!

Dalaga na si Niña, I still really can't believe kung gaano kabilis magdalaga tong kapatid ko. Minamadali nya kase at daig pa ako. She can even put a good combination of make up than me. I still remember the days na kinakarga karga ko lang sya pero ngayon, look how pretty she is. mas malaki pa sakin.

at ngayon, at her age of 15, She's running for SK Councilor sa Barangay namin....Sana manalo kase baka pag natalo e umiyak yan. Ayoko pa naman ng nasasaktan yan. Para sakin, she's so fragile kase. Pinaka close sakin yan I guess pinupunan kolang yung mga dapat nageexperience nya sa age nya na wala si papa. Sya ang pinaka nasaktan nung nawala si papa. I've seen how much she suffered from the moment na namatay si papa, and bilang ate, kailangn masiguro ko na after that, lagi akong nakaalalay sa kanya.I love you sis :)

VOTE for My sister :) 

FRIENDSHIP

We, individuals need friends din naman, they can walk with you all through the pages of your life and reminds you how beautiful life is. They put up a smile in your face everytime your in down and there's no one to comfort you. They can even be beside you, behind you or even infront of you when your down. That's what friends are.

Pero di maiiwasan na mag aaway din, I guess it's normal lalu na kapag matagal at malalim na yung pinagsamahan. Backstubbing, hersays, irapan, dun na lalabas yung mga sumbat and negative sides. Yun na siguro yung worst part ng pagkakaibigan.

But, we have to remember that everything shall pass!!! kasama sa buhay yan.. Its only a test of friendship diba. Wala namang perfect but siguro knowing na there's someone you can trust and lean on pwede na siguro yun. After all things happened will only be charge to experience and lesson learned.

Got this from a friends post :)

PARANG KAYO PERO HINDI,

She is a 24-year old copywriter. He is an architect. They met and became
lovers in college. They broke up last year but remained to be "friends."

They send sweet text messages and he calls her often to make sure she's
okay. They still date. They still have sex.

They don't see anyone else. It is obvious that they still love each
other but when asked about their situation, she doesn't know the real
score. Even her friends are in the dark. "Parang sila, pero hindi."

She works in a telecom. He is reviewing for the board. They are in the
same barkada. They talk on the phone till 4 am. He gives her chocolates,
flowers and CDs even when there is no occasion. Their friends are
suspecting something. Bakit sila nagsosolo kapag may overnight inuman?
Why does he hold her close on the dance floor? Bakit sila magkaholding
hands lagi?Sila kaya?
"He hasn't admitted anything," she rants. "But I let him hug and kiss
me. Parang kami, pero hindi."

They work together in an ad agency. After office, they would watch
movie, have dinner and stroll at Glorietta. She gave him Harry Potter
books for his birthday in exchange for posing as her boyfriend to make an
ex jealous. They made out during the company outing in Subic and never
talked about it. He said "I love you" once but she wasn't sure if she
heard him correctly because they were both drunk then. But one thing she
is sure of is her feelings for him. She likes him. And she's assuming
that with what he's doing to her and with her, he likes her, too.
There's just one hitch: he has a girlfriend!

She is a 28-year-old virgin. He's a 35-year-old bachelor. Both
mountaineers, they became close during their climbs. After a few dates
in posh restaurants, he brings her to his condo where they would make
out.

They have been doing this for months. She wants to believe that "sila
na" but then she's not really sure about it. "We don't talk about it but
it doesn't really matter," she'd tell her friends. "What's important is
I am enjoying this -- whatever it is."

The "parang kayo, pero hindi" stage. Others call it MU or mutual
understanding. Pseudo-relationships. Pseudo- boyfriends.

Flings. Almost like a relationship, but not quite. It is a phase where
the persons involved are more than friends, but not quite lovers.

Puwedeng may verbal agreement, puwedeng wala. One or both of you may
have admitted your feelings, possible ding hindi. You just let your

gestures do the talking for you. Walang pormal na ligawan na nangyari.
Hindi kayo mag-dyowa.

Pero sa kilos niyo, sa mga sinasabi niyo, parang kayo, pero hindi.

This kind of "relationship" can happen at different stages for different
reasons. It can happen after a break-up. You still love each other, and
you want to be with each other but you broke up for a reason. A nd for
reasons that you alone know, ayaw niyo na muna magkabalikan.

It can also happen before a relationship, iyong pareho kayong
nakikiramdam. Possible din na ayaw niyo munang mag-seryoso kaya
kunwa-kunwarian lang muna.

Testing lang.

Puwede ring hindi puwedeng maging kayo kasi isa sa inyo --usually the
guy --may ka-relasyon na. Kaya habang hindi pa siya nakikipag-break doon
sa girl (sabi niya makikipag-break siya soon pero di naman niya
ginagawa), wala muna kayong relasyon para nga naman hindi siya
nangagaliwa kasi "hindi naman kayo."

This pseudo-relationship stage, for a time, can be fun. Lalo na kung
naghahanap ka lang naman ng "kalaro."

Pero huwag ka lang mag-e-expect na may patutunguhan kayo kasi wala
talagang kasiguraduhan.

So bakit ang daming nagse-settle sa ganitong set up ganoong hindi naman
sigurado kung may patutunguhan?

Iba't ibang dahilan. Puwedeng for fun lang.

Puwedeng "buti na iyan kesa w ala" or puwede na iyang "pantawid-gutom."

Meaning, habang wala pa iyong the real thing, doon muna sa
kunwa-kunwarian.

For those who are not in a serious relationship, they would think that
pseudo-relationship is better than no relationship at all. It would be
fun, if all you are after for is that "kilig"
feeling.

Aminado naman ako na once upon a time, may mga pseudo-relationships din
ako. No commitments involved. For the simplest reason that they couldn't
commit, because they were either committed to someone else, or that they
weren't ready to commit.

My rationalization, "okay na iyun, kesa wala."

Ang habol ko lang naman, iyong kilig feeling. Iyong merong nagtatanong
kung

kumusta araw ko. Iyong merong ka-cuddle sa beach outing. Iyong kapag
tumunog ang cellphone, mapapangiti na ako dahil alam kong galing sa
kanya ang message. Iyong merong laging kasama. Habang wala pa ang the
real thing, puwede na itong pagtiyagaan.

But then I learned that although it was only a pseudo-relationship, the
emotions were real. And usually, in this kind of set up, ang babae lagi
ang lugi.

Una, you can't ask him to commit. Since it's not really a relationship,
you

can't demand commitment from your partner. Ano ba kayo? May K ka nga ba
magpasundo ng hatinggabi? You will always be uncertain about your role
in his life. You can't expect him to be always there with you. And if
you feel jealous of the other girls, you just have to keep it to
yourself.

Ano ka ba niya para magselos?

Pangalawa, what if you fall deeply in love with him?
You can't be sure if he feels the same way. Baka nag-a-assume ka lang na
mahal ka rin niya.

Even if you are dying to tell him you love him, you can't.
Because you're not sure if he'll like it. Baka mapahiya ka lang.

This stage will always make you wonder where you are in the
relationship.

Or if there is a relationship at all.

Pangatlo, what if you become attached too much?

What if you have invested all your emotions and this man hasn't?

What if you remain faithful to him, not entertaining other guys, only to
find out that he is seeing other girls?

Isa pang downside ng pseudo-relationships, it is fleeting. When a
disagreement sets in, or when one of you gets cold, then that would be
the end of it. Unlike in a serious relationship, hindi mo alam kung saan
ka lulugar sa isang pseudo-relationship. Wala kang pinanghahawakan.

Kasi sa pseudo-relationship, there is no "us." Meron lang "you and me,"
hindi "us."

Buti sana kung pseudo-pain din lang ang mararanasan mo. Kaso, hindi eh.
Real pain. And usually, kahit tapos na ang pseudo- relationship, hindi
mo maiwasan umasang one day, may karugtong pa rin iyun. And you will be
miserable, hoping to bring back what you used to have, only to find out
eventually that the guy is in another pseudo-relationship with somebody
else.

Ang h irap, ano? You agreed to this kind of set up for fun and then
you'd end up hurting yourself in the process.

Pero puwede naman maiwasan ang pain eh.
Puwede naman na hindi mo muna isipin ang future and just enjoy the
feeling, without thinking of the consequences.

But if you are certain that you are going to hurt yourself in the
process, kailangan mo mamili. You can be happy and live the moment
without worrying what would happen next. Or you can stop settling with
pseudo-relationships and wait for the real thing.

When I was younger and in a pseudo-relationship with an unavailable guy,
a friend told me, "Sige, kung ayaw mong magpapigil, bahala ka.

Magpakasaya ka.

Pero huwag kang iiyak-iyak pagkatapos, dahil tatadyakan kita."

Ang bottom line lang naman, kung magpapasaya sa iyo, gawin mo.

Ihanda mo lang ang sarili mo sa consequence. Dahil ang "parang kayo pero
hindi" stage ay bihirang nagiging totoo. Usually, hanggang doon lang
siya ...

almost, but not quite.

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ways to say sorry

It’s pretty inevitable that, at some point, you and your sweetie will go toe-to-toe on an issue. Unfortunately, when you find yourself in the wrong, it isn’t always easy to admit it. This doesn’t mean, however, that it has to stay that way. If you’ve found your way into the “dog house,” try using a few of the ideas below to make your way out. Even if you are not the one in the wrong, it’s good to remember that a sincere gesture can go a long way.

• Take an old sheet and write “I’m Sorry!” across it using a large tipped felt pen or marker. Hang it up somewhere your partner will see it, like the shower, garage door or a wall.

• Write a note explaining your feelings. Break any tension by putting the note inside of a humorous “I’m Sorry” card.

• Write out “I’m Sorry” using little Hershey’s Kisses or rose petals.

• Write “I’m Sorry” on quite a few sticky notes and leave them all over the room, or on your partner’s car.

• Hire a singing telegram person to sing an “I’m Sorry” message to your partner.

• Order flowers and include an “I’m Sorry” note.

• Give your partner a big hug and kiss, and tell them you are sorry!